“I Think I’m Pregnant.”
Has your partner just announced that she thinks she’s pregnant? Those four words can turn your world upside down in an instant. We’re here for you if you feel pressure regarding your partner’s unplanned pregnancy. After all, men need support too.
First, encourage her to schedule an appointment for both of you at Marin Pregnancy Clinic. Start with pregnancy testing, nurse health intake, and an ultrasound. These are provided at no charge. We can confirm whether she’s pregnant or not.
The Do’s
- Listen. The situation involves more than just you.
- Stay calm. Your partner needs your support now more than ever.
- Talk about it. Talk with each other and prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
- Gather the facts. Get information and seek wise counsel to make the best decision.
- Express yourself honestly. It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. Make sure your partner knows she is not alone.
The Dont’s
- Don’t bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
- Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. Both of you need to work as a team.
- Don’t forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as express your thoughts.
The two of you can get through this. Your partner needs you now more than ever. You can provide her with the support she needs – emotionally and physically. We can offer the support you need, too.
Talk with our nurses in a safe and non-judgmental environment today. Our support is offered at no charge to you and is entirely confidential.
Did Your Partner Choose Abortion?
Post-abortion stress is the inability to process the stress and emotions associated with your partner’s abortion decision. Sadness and stress may be immediate or delayed reactions that can surface anytime in a person’s life. When it does resurface, it can be confusing, painful, and overwhelming.
Some men experience strong negative emotions after abortion. This psychological response is known as Post-Abortion Stress (PAS). Men struggle with the fact they are often denied the right to be involved in abortion decisions.
This powerlessness takes its toll not only on the male self-image but may bring on role conflict, excessive guilt, depression, and, sometimes, the end of the relationship with your partner.
Help is available if you are experiencing post-abortion trauma. You can speak with a therapist, contact a Post-Abortion Support Group, or contact Marin Pregnancy Clinic.